Madam Kighal's Astrology

Valuing a Relationship

At first glance, the combination of the emotional Moon and the sober, rational Capricorn may seem incompatible, but the combination is reconciled in the tendency to channel emotional energy into work and to seek emotional gratification through activity.
In simple terms, this can make them career-centred or even workaholics. They need to put their heart (Moon) into their work, and they can become quite despondent when stuck in a dead-end job. While they will often continue to work at it, they find no satisfaction from it and when they realize this, it's time for them to move on to new things if they want to be happy.

This can also create for them a personal value system that applies the standards of one life area to the other. So, emotional matters are appreciated for their 'value'. Despite this mixing of work, heart, life and love metaphors, though, relationships are much more important than work. This is the paradox of the Capricorn Moon - their strong desire to be in a feeling relation ship and their struggle to express the depth and seriousness of their feelings in a heart language that another heart will easily understand. Imagine an inner force that wants to expand, countered by a limit that keeps it hidden. This is a hint of how some Capricorn Moons can labour to open up and be at ease in their relationships.

So don't be surprised if the Capricorn Moon appears dismissive when they are dealing with 'troublesome' or irrational emotions. This can seem rough or inconsiderate, but is in fact more a by product of their own discomfort in dealing with feelings they don't have or don't understand. They will also take the same approach to work that fails to gratify them. The right partner for a Capricorn Moon will reassure them and encourage them to be themselves and be at ease with their feelings. This is an important area of growth for the Capricorn Moon and their partner can play a big role in helping them develop an acceptance of emotional issues, an openness of feeling, and a greater sense of freedom in dealing with them.

With intimate relationships, they like to be careful and considered before making a move. This can result in a less spontaneous approach to love, making them seem cool or uninterested. But the slow to act, hard to stop quality comes into full effect in matters of the heart with a Capricorn Moon. Once they have finished assessing, they are as passionate and driven - maybe more so - than the next person, and passion coolly expressed is an intriguing and captivating combination of qualities.
What a Capricorn Moon needs from a relationship is a good dose of optimism, frivolity and reassurance. This will help them loosen up and give them a more well-rounded and satisfying emotional life. They need a partner who is balanced and gives as much as they take. Their cautious approach means they don't easily understand the more impetuous of the Moon signs, although they may secretly admire them while openly commenting that maybe they are a bit foolhardy. For a Gemini or Aries Moon who likes a breezier, more light-footed way of living, Capricorns can seem too pedantic and unadventurous. In truth, they do have an adventurous side, it's just that they depart fully prepared and ready to go the duration. They do well with Libra Moons, who round them out and bring the right amount of levity and sociability. A Cancer Moon is considered the perfect partner for them - caring, home-loving, emotive, giving and nurturing.

In turn, they will be responsible partners who will shoulder more than their fair share of the emotional load, even to their own detriment. This applies not only to love relationships, but also to friendships. If they come to feel that they have given too much of themselves, though, they can feel disadvantaged or taken for granted. It is easy for them to get carried away by such feelings and become skeptical or suspicious, which can further hurt their relationships. This only makes matters worse, as they tend to feel bad about feeling bad and yet don't know how to get out of such a rut. At such times, getting them out into nature helps them to relax and brings out the best of them - especially if you can get them to a windy mountaintop. The natural vista frees and nourishes their spirit.

Making It Work

In emotional matters, their determination gives them real staying power and the ability to press on with difficult emotional or relationship issues. When discussing a problem, be ready for a care ful, deliberate look at all the options and don't be surprised if they point out things you have overlooked. Their cool scrutiny will help both of you find an answer. If, though, after a long effort,they fail to move forward, their goat-like nature comes into play and they can put their head down to hit problems head on, often with a stubbornness that is hard to beat.

Working out a problem with the stubborn side of the Capricorn Moon can be daunting, especially if you hope to get them to entirely change their point of view. There is little to be gained from a frontal assault, as it will only trigger their natural defences, causing them to want to hold their ground. In old Indian poetry, arguments are referred to as 'the thunder and lightning of love', and only the largest bolts, those of mythical proportions, are a match for the immovable mountain. In everyday life, strategy, diplomacy and a bit of compromise are much more effective. Of course,the Capricorn Moon is good at this as well. The best thing is to adopt a playful attitude and get them to the chessboard to see who will win, lose or draw. In any case, be ready to be flexible and give them the sense that you have heard them and that they have not had to let go of everything. If you are clever in relating with a Capricorn Moon you will 'give a little to get a little', letting the thunder of conflict intensify your passions.

If it's a reliable, stable partner you are looking for, then Capricorn Moons are as good as they come. They have strong characters, and their friends and lovers usually come to rely on and admire them for this. They tend to lean toward the hard-working, trust worthy and predictable end of the social spectrum and therefore make good parents, loyal friends and sound business partners. They also exhibit these qualities in regard to social and charitable interests. They have open minds, although they love a good debate, and they strive to understand life and love with both their minds and their hearts. Understanding which they are using at any one time can be challenging, but with time and practice you will be able to see how for them the two ore closely connected. They can appear quite strong and confident, but also need as much nurturing as the next person. The challenge for you will be to gain entrance to their mountain fort, which you con do by taking the risk of showing your own vulnerable side before they do - which brings out their own noble qualities. It can toke some time to unravel the special language of their heart, but having done so, you can talk your way into the fortress of their heart to find a safe, secure place that has lots of room for you and for others.